Perception is key here. This is all speculation so give me a break if I'm a bit off. I think AO's initial comment was a response to Tyler's post in which AO thought that basically the pot was calling the kettle black. That comment was made based off of Adam's "perception" of the opinions and comments made by those people up to that point, which is perfectly acceptable behavior. That's the only way to have a conversation, and we're all guilty of it (or bound by it) to a certain extent in every post. Adam's comment wouldn't even have been possible had Tyler not utilized the "douchebag" term in the first place. I'm not saying either was wrong, I thought it was all pretty funny. I am saying you shouldn't get offended by a post that only exists because of prior offense.
Jay's FOAD reply I didn't take to be any more personally direct than a random YFC or GTFODB. I honestly think he was just using common internet phraseology to express distaste, but not to intentionally make a direct personal attack on AO, any more than just the general "that was helpful, thanks Dunce". Which is about as deep as AO's initial comment, so I don't really understand the controversy there.
I do really love this thread, but I introduced controversy into it for a specific reason; to make a legitimate point and to Chuck with that ghost guy because he annoys me. So if the people with Brains here could get back on track that'd be great. You know who you are.
you're not the girl you think you are